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  1. #51
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    Registered: Aug 2004
    FFS. What make&model? Can always use a good cautionary tale...

  2. #52
    Moderator
    Registered: Jan 2003
    Location: NeoTokyo
    Asus ROG G752VT. Except for the motherboard fritzing out, it's honestly a pretty awesome gaming laptop that has the best features at the best price. As of 8 months ago when I was researching this it was easily the top choice.

    I'm now suspecting the store gave me an Asus charger for the wrong model because it didn't really fit fully inside the slot (only about 3/4 fit in), and while it normally worked fine it sometimes gave a message like "incorrect voltage" when it wasn't pushed in all the way. I just thought it was a design flub on Asus's part, but now I'm thinking the vendor may have goofed. That's the best theory I have thinking back on it.

    Then that makes me think about how complicated would it be to make a claim about it to the shop this late, and I'm already going to have to be dealing with a support call in Japanese to get it repaired as it is... It's interesting how much of a downer tech issues can be. It's just electronics, and even the cost doesn't really justify feeling so down. It almost feels like it's some kind of personal betrayal, like I trusted this laptop was going to take care of me ... So often I buy used ones, and those always last forever for me, but I finally decided to splurge for a brand new nice gaming & entertainment laptop, and that's the one that flips me the bird hardly half a year in.

    Well anyway... it's still much better to pay to repair it than buy a new one. Just hoping they make it quick and easy for me. I'll call support tomorrow & get the ball rolling.

  3. #53
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    Registered: Feb 2007
    Location: Sevastapol Station
    My estranged wife, whom I have been separated from for the last 6 months, finally gave me an ultimatum. Come home or never see my kids again. She would rather lawyer up and pay somebody to make us fight a war than to work it out peacefully and agree to split. Doesn't want to hear me say anything at all other than, "I'm coming home," and has explicitly told me that she doesn't want to talk or hear anything I have to say that doesn't involve reconciliation. I know that the best I can hope for going back to that woman is to narrowly miss becoming a corpse swinging from the rafters in the basement. Cheerful news for Friday morning.

  4. #54
    Southquarter.com/fms
    Registered: Apr 2000
    Location: The Akkala Highlands
    Sorry to hear, VA, that's a rough one. I always hate hearing about situations where kids are being used as leverage. Any way to bring in a neutral third party to try to work things out? Probably not I suppose.

  5. #55
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    Registered: Feb 2007
    Location: Sevastapol Station
    Well a big part of the problem is that I don't want to work things out. I mean not in the we-are-getting-back-together sense. So she doesn't want to talk to any third party unless my attitude changes about that. I had plans to take the kids out last night and get some wings and pizza with some friends, but with the way the arguments have gone lately she threw the "my lawyer advised me to not allow non-supervised visits" line at me telling me that I had to come over and stay at the house under her watchful eye. I decided to tell her to go fuck herself over email rather than in person with the kids between us as I try to take them for pizza, I'm not going to use them against her just because I'm pissed. My phone has been switched off for about 24 hours now and I'm not looking forward to what is waiting for me when I turn it back on. I'm willing to be civil and look at things realistically and make compromises that work for the best interests of the kids. She wants me to come home or fuck off (her words).

    EDIT: I don't know why I'm letting this out here. I just don't have anybody to talk to, and I'm in a less than optimal mood.

  6. #56
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    Registered: Aug 2004
    Hmm. Sounds like time to lawyer up. I'm sorry.

  7. #57
    Oh damn, sorry to hear that, VA. Mind if I ask, what has led you and your wife to separate?

  8. #58
    Member
    Registered: Sep 2001
    Location: Qantas
    Sorry to hear of everyone's misfortune, especially Harvester, my condolences.

    Yakoob - I assume you ruled out diet, e.g. gluten or lactose allergy? If so, have you thought about depression? A few times in my life I've gone through periods where I'm frequently tired, not sleeping that great, getting sick often and suffering some random minor health issues, procrastinating a lot, feeling apathetic and dissatisfied with work. I never went to doctors about it and each time it went away on its own after a change of scenery. Last time around, I finally realized it was depression. I've had some family and a couple coworkers go through this too, but they doctored up, visiting specialist after specialist and not finding any physical cause for feeling crappy.

    VA - Ultimatums suck. I hope your wife comes to realize that reconciliation is impossible under threat. Having gone through something similar, sans kids, all I can say is that nobody should be making serious/permanent life decisions while emotions are boiling. It sounds like she needs time for her anger and grief to subside a little bit before she's ready to sit down and negotiate a divorce. If I were in your shoes, I would consider going through some marriage counseling anyway, even if you're sure you don't want to work things out, simply to demonstrate good faith and de-escalate the situation and give your wife time to accept things. Unfortunately, lawyers tend to turn things adversarial. I've had friends split up amicably up until they brought lawyers into it, and at that point their lawyers gave them plenty of good ways to punish each other.

    In my case, my wife and I separated (unofficially) after 12 years of marriage. We did some counseling at first, even though I was not open to reconciliation at the time. We didn't rush it. I figured people don't just jump into marriage while they're infatuated, so they shouldn't jump into divorce while they're angry and bitter. We tried to treat each other like friends while we were apart, gave each other a shoulder to cry on, and didn't lawyer up. Having some space to settle down and get over the things that were driving us mad worked wonders and when we saw each other it started to feel like dating again. After a year I moved back. It's 8 years later and we have two young kids and our marriage is stronger than it was before. I know that things usually don't end that way, we were lucky, and didn't have kids to fight over. But even if we had gone for the divorce, it would have been much easier and less painful to go through after taking the time to let things settle down versus rushing into it. Good luck.

    demagogue - Everybody buys Asus once. Their computers always look good on paper and get good reviews. But I won't buy Asus again and I don't know many people who will. Your experience is unfortunately typical.
    Last edited by heywood; 14th Jul 2017 at 17:29.

  9. #59
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    Registered: Sep 2002
    Location: Cologne
    The older I get the more often I notice my life and those of others turn into the kind of absurd situations we used to laugh at when they were on tv. But if comedy is tragedy plus time, then we've got a lot to look forward to.

    //Recommended watching for you VA: The Odd Couple, with Jack Lemmon and Walter Matthau, 1968
    Last edited by Kolya; 14th Jul 2017 at 17:56.

  10. #60
    Member
    Registered: Jun 2004
    My condolences VA, that is a shitty situation :/ One thing I would add is to be veeery careful in all your communication with her - if she has a lawyer, it is likely she is keeping track of all messages and emails (and even record phone calls/convos if going crazy). So always remain polite, or she could use it against you.

    Quote Originally Posted by heywood View Post
    Yakoob - I assume you ruled out diet, e.g. gluten or lactose allergy? If so, have you thought about depression?
    Yeah mostly, i've been experimenting with my diet but every time I seem to hit something that works, it stops after a few days and I guess it was just a lucky fluke. I haven't gotten tested proper and haven't cut out lactose/gluten for a significant enough time, but eh, I've been eating those all my life and it never bothered me. I know you can develop allergies later on but I'm somewhat skeptical it's those two factors.

    My mental state definitely has a big impact on it, and something I have been working on as well. But it's daunting that even on days when I am motivated and excited to do things, I can't. I was traveling with family a month ago and going thru museums was excruciating at times, I had to sit down every 15 mins, could barely pay attention to the stuff I was reading, even tho it was genuinely fascinating and a vacation time with cool people :/

  11. #61
    Chakat sex pillow
    Registered: Sep 2006
    Location: not here
    Quote Originally Posted by heywood View Post
    demagogue - Everybody buys Asus once. Their computers always look good on paper and get good reviews. But I won't buy Asus again and I don't know many people who will. Your experience is unfortunately typical.
    Anecdotal evidence, but I've been using ASUS mobos for the past 14 years, and they've kept on working after literal lightning strikes. It's always the ethernet cable that carries the charge, and it's always stopped short of a burnt-out port while the mobo kept happily puttering on. I don't regret the choice any.

  12. #62
    Member
    Registered: Sep 2001
    Location: Qantas
    I've built two or three gaming PCs based on ASUS desktop motherboards, without any problem. That's what made me feel OK about buying one of their laptops, despite some reports of failure on the NotebookReview.com forums I used to frequent. But every single person I know in real life who has purchased an Asus laptop has had some problem with it.

  13. #63
    Moderator
    Registered: Jan 2003
    Location: NeoTokyo
    Well I said tech woes were like a personal insult, but VA's story puts things in perspective.
    At least I don't have to deal with relationship drama (knock on wood). That truly is the absolute worse, and I count my lucky stars for as bad as I have it, it's really not that bad in the grand scheme of things. You have all my sympathies.

    Asus, well those tiny shell notebooks they have are kind of dodgy but you can get one for next to nothing.
    The ROG line is supposed to be top-line, so that's why it's a bit surprising.

    Now my theory is that it was turning on with the lid closed when I thought it was in sleep mode. It has a light on the back and the fans that'd turn off which you think would be signal enough. I'd just leave it on my bed, and I think it was turning back on and overheating that way. Sometimes when I'd come back I'd see the lights and fan back on churning. But even that was only a handful of times. Anyway there was a smell of electric burn one day, so something got fried somehow.

  14. #64
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    Registered: Jun 2010
    Location: A Former Orange Grove
    I have been staying off the community chat for a while now. I do post here and there, but nothing like I used to. My sincere best wishes to all those in pain out there, especially Harvester. May you all find peace and soon.

  15. #65
    Member
    Registered: Dec 2005
    Location: swimming in pickled herring
    Proof that I am the best care-giver ever! The Friday before 4th of July weekend, I noticed that my mom was showing signs of a UTI (urinary tract infection) so I called her doctors office. They were closing up for the day and wouldn't be open again till the next Wednesday, but the medi-group they are in has a branch that is open over the weekend. Early Sat. morning I took her over there to get a urine sample. Since we had no appointment, we had to wait 1 1/2 hours to see a doctor. He agreed with my diagnosis of an UTI, so a couple of nurses took her to the restroom to collect a sample. After two hours passed and none of us could cajole her into taking a piss ( I had filled her full of water, coffee, and tea that morning without letting her use the toilet), I was told that they don't do catheters at that facility, and we would have to go to the Emergency Room of our local hospital. So, off we went. After a short wait, we were taken back to a room in ER. After another bit of wait, an ER doctor came in and asked me what the problem was. I explained my suspicions to him, and added that in addition to her other symptoms, she had some swelling in her feet and ankles, which was unusual. He also agreed that given her history of UTI's, that was most likely the problem but he wanted to take some blood samples as well just to be sure. He mentioned that her swollen feet might be caused by a skin infection, thus the blood samples. After a few hours, the test results were in. All of her symptoms (even more confusion than her Alzheimers would cause, along with weakness and shaking) were caused by basically Athletes Foot. Turns out that any kind of bacteriological infection can cause the same symptoms as an UTI, news to me. So long story short, her Alzhiemers has trumped her OCD, which normally would force her to be very fastidious in her personal hygiene. Now however, her OCD has taken over, and I spend all day trying to convince her that she does not need to have her shoes on, which does not work for her, she is used to wearing shoes all day and not wearing them (to let the swelling go down) conflicts with her normal routine. So it all boils down to this, I completely blew it by not noticing that she was not caring for her feet, so my penitence is washing and applying a topical cream to her feet 3 times a day. All this for a parent that I moved out of the house to escape her craziness when I was 16 years old. Anyone remember how "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest"ends?

  16. #66
    Member
    Registered: Sep 2002
    Location: Cologne
    That's a huge ongoing sacrifice you're making there, montag. I moved out for similar reasons and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be up to taking care of her like that. Reading your stories about your "little monster" is terrifying and admirable. I'm always glad to see that you apparently haven't lost your humour.

  17. #67
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    Registered: Jun 2002
    Location: Girl with the Patreon Tattoo
    Quote Originally Posted by Kolya View Post
    Sounds cool. What are you up to up there?
    Tentatively looking for a fresh start in a place that:
    • is less populated than Paris but remains a capital and cultural city;
    • has the sea/ocean, a significant amount of nature and better facilities for going swimming/running, etc.;
    • hardly ever goes over 25°C in summer;
    • will get me to learn a new culture/language while getting me far away from French politics;
    • still allows me to get an interesting job in my field;
    • (and a much higher salary)

    Work is starting on Monday, until then I'm an ingenuous newcomer wandering the center of the city.

  18. #68
    Member
    Registered: Sep 2002
    Location: Cologne
    Wow, good for you man. There was a time when I was positively in love with Sweden (after watching the film Fucking Åmål). I'd still like to see Stockholm or Gothenburg.
    I found some great music coming out of Sweden then. Annika Norlin, Säkert!, Anna Järvinen and of course Those Dancing Days who for a short time shone so very brightly.
    If you find some newer stuff, while you're there I'd be happy to hear it.

  19. #69
    Member
    Registered: Mar 2005
    Location: Netherlands
    My sympathies, VA. Losing an unsalvageable relationship is tough enough, but your children being used as leverage against you and not even knowing if you can keep seeing them, that's rough. I hope things will work out well.

    Thanks for all the condolences and well-wishes, everyone!

  20. #70
    Member
    Registered: Feb 2007
    Location: Sevastapol Station
    Yeah. I've agreed to marriage counselling, with the understanding that I'm there to learn how to communicate effectively with her without all the emotion getting in the way and turning things sour and damaging. She doesn't want to though, as I said, unless my goal is reconciliation. It's a messy situation.

    re: Asus

    I have had 2 Asus graphics cards die on me. A Geforce GT 8800 and a GTS 250. I've decided I wont be using their graphics cards anymore. I had a mobo that worked well enough, except whatever chipset it used for the firewire controller hated letting me use my audio interface and ethernet at the same time. Upgrading to a Gigabyte board helped that. But since upgrading to Kaby Lake, my new mobo is Asus again and it's working flawlessly.

  21. #71
    Moderator
    Registered: Apr 2003
    Location: Wales
    My ex-husband and I went for marriage guidance counselling when I said I wanted to separate. It was enormously helpful. We had quite a few sessions and the end result was that he fully understood and accepted why I wanted to leave. And that meant that the separation was relatively painless and the needs of the children were first in everything so there was no rancour and they weren't forced to take sides in any way. Any anger was gone and if it hadn't been for legal beagles, it would have been completely straightforward. We sorted everything out ourselves.

    I remember apologising to him about 8 years later and he said he was actually grateful because it had precipitated an emotional release for him which allowed him to 'grow'. We're really good friends and we both go to other family stuff. My messy situation turned out very OK. I hope yours does too.

    I know nothing about Asus.

  22. #72
    Member
    Registered: Sep 2002
    Location: Cologne
    Am I logged in? Why is no one posting?

    *taps fingers on the desk*

    The last time I was so bored must have been in the late 90s.

    I think I got salmonella poisoning from that damn ice cream parlor yesterday. I've had two3 shots of vodka to clean up.
    Might as well make sure. Not really a vodka fan here, imagine me drinking it like Ash downs boiling water to get rid of his evil twins.
    Can't say it doesn't work though. I feel better already.

    And now for the news:
    Chewbacca got arrested for campaigning for Darth Vader in Ukrainian local elections.
    We also got a video of the arrest: https://imgur.com/IVnmcEW

    And now a word from our sponsors!


  23. #73
    Member
    Registered: Mar 2001
    Location: Melbourne, Australia
    Last week brang the beginning of my going back to work teaching (mostly games development related units) at Monash University and at the same time the packing for my move out of my parents place. Moved into the new place yesterday, and today was filled with teaching and unpacking. Due to having a large L-Shaped computer desk setup (which I had to get a large hole cut out of the bottom of so that I could connect my modem up) meant that only today I had working internet. So feeling VERY burned out from all the non stop busy-ness of it all. Not been this busy for such an extended period of time in quite some time.

    I'd love to just relax for a good week, but nope got to get to work, and learning the new paths to go to get to the train station, or to drive to when I feel the need. So mentally tired. Gah.

    Not even had the energy to play video games. Very un-me-like.

  24. #74
    Member
    Registered: Sep 2002
    Location: Cologne
    No wonder you don't have the energy to engage in virtual adventures right now. It'll come back. Enjoy your new start.

  25. #75
    Member
    Registered: Mar 2001
    Location: Melbourne, Australia
    Thanks. I'm sure I'll be fine in a few days.

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